Friday, March 07, 2008

If I Were Coaching Hillary She'd Win in a Heartbeat

It occurred to me a few weeks ago, that if I were coaching Hillary she'd win easily, but I didn't really get it until I heard myself say it out loud.

It's really true. I know what the crucial ingredient is that she's missing (And Barack seems to have it in abundance) and it's really something we all have (including Hillary) and it's quite easy to express - but only if you know how.

It's one of the key things I do for clients with my coaching and if Hillary asked me to help her with it, I could bring it out of her in minutes (this is not my ego talking). And it would be available every time she speaks. Imagine Hillary making speeches that are as moving as Barack's.

There would be a seismic shift.

I don't know if Barack always had this ability, or if a coach helped him with it, but what I'm talking about is the same quality that Reagan had and Oprah has. It's sometimes called 'charisma' and I used to think it was something only the lucky few possessed. It's not.

You were born with it and so was I.

This is the real reason people flock to Barack's rallies. Maybe they like his message, but his message is not really new. In fact, it's pretty similar to Hillary's message. It's just so much more inspiring when he says it. There's a very specific reason for that.

The reason I'm so confident that this is the crucial ingredient is that Hillary expressed it right before the New Hampshire primary (when rumors of her demise were a bit premature) and the voters immediately swung back her way.

Remember the infamous "crying" scene? Cynics accused her of manufacturing tears to get the sympathy vote, but tears had nothing to do with it. In that one moment, Hillary spoke from the heart about why she wanted to serve. She expressed her passion for making a difference and her lifelong career as a servant leader. She wasn't manufacturing anything. She was expressing her Personal Greatness. New Hampshire voters got it and voted for her overwhelmingly and thereby embarrassed virtually every political pundit in America.

That's Greatness.

The difference between me and the average voter is that I not only feel Greatness, I know what it is, where it comes from and how to elicit it from my clients. It's actually quite easy.

If you're a good coach, you know how to do it, too.

Now the election is complicated, of course. But Hillary's biggest threat is that Barack expresses his Greatness via the spoken word. We don't really know if he expresses it by doing great work, because he really hasn't done anything, yet. Hillary has and that's why she would win if she could just get past those frozen smiles, carefully crafted statements and those dratted 5-Point Plans.

Hillary also suffers from Good Girl Syndrome, but that's another post.

And of course we are at the stage of the election where mud slinging reigns. Today, the day of the Mississippi primary, the NY Times ran a piece that compared Hillary's red phone ad to the Ku Klux Klan. Talk about fear mongering. So much for the new clean politics we were promised by Barack.

And prejudice is an issue on both sides. Bill Maher, whenever he makes fun of Hillary, says, "I'm not sexist." (Me thinks he doth protest too much.) But it was on his show that I first heard of the poll that says twice as many Americans would refuse to vote for a woman than for a black man. Most of us are past this, but not all of us. Greatness however, overcomes prejudice.

Seth Godin says Hillary will damage her brand if she doesn't give up quick. What brand is that? Surely it's not her Comeback Queen brand.

If both sides keep getting dirty, both will suffer, but Barack more than Hillary, because his brand is specifically based on a new clean approach to politics. (Just watch what's happening to another politician who ran on a "clean politics" platform, Elliot Spitzer. Once you say it, you'd better live up to it.) Hers is based on being a smart, tough broad who just keeps coming. (Jon Stewart calls her the Terminator!)

If Hillary learns to express her inner Greatness, there's no stopping her, because it takes a lot of time to develop experience and Greatness, as important as it is, can be had just in an instant.

The reason people are so attracted to someone who's expressing their Personal Greatness is because they start to slip into their own Greatness, as well. It's contagious and it's intoxicating and it helps us be better people. We DO want a President who inspires us to Greatness!

Anyhow, that's just how powerful masterful coaching can be. It can change world history in a moment by shifting just one client. Cool, huh?

So Hillary: I'm available. Want to win an election?

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Coaches Have Ultra True Fans

Kevin Kelly's blog, The Technium, gets referenced a fair amount on the blogosphere and for good reason, he's quite insightful. Today, Seth Godin directed me to Kevin's latest, True Fans, about how a good solid living can be made with just about 1,000 people who really believe in your work. Now Kevin is writing about how artists make it, but what he says is rather familiar.

Most coaches thrive and prosper with perhaps an even smaller number of fans. I'd call them Ultra True Fans...Read entire article at the Coaching Blog.


Monday, February 25, 2008

Should Coaching be Free?

Notice how certain memes seem to be on everyone's mind at the same time? Makes you wonder. I read the Wired article on Chris Anderson's book FREE! last night and in my inbox this morning was TrendWatch's Free Love article. None of the ideas in either article were really new to me, but they did spark several new inspirations, so that's pretty cool.

Learned a couple of new words: Freevertising and Freeconomics (not the book, the phenomenon)

Basic idea: Business is quickly moving toward $0.00 for everything. Great news for consumers, eh? So how do you make any money?

Friday, February 22, 2008

If Your Coaching Business is a Little Slow, Follow Seth Godin's Advice


I'm a subscriber to Seth Godin's Blog, because he's a great writer and really "gets" the whole "marketing with integrity" thing that is the only way to become a successful coach. I wish I had written the following post that he wrote for real estate agents. Only I would have written it for whiny coaches during the last recession, when a lot of them needed to hear it...

Read entire post at the Coaching Blog. 


Sunday, February 17, 2008

Should You Become a Coach In an Economic Downturn?

Is it or isn't it? A recession, I mean? How many thousands of hours of airtime have "pundits" used up analyzing our economy and still we don't know if it's the Big R or not?

All that professional fretting can sure make a new business person nervous! And those of us who've been at it for a while are concerned, too. On the other hand, any time there is a shake up of any sort, new opportunities pop up. The fun of being in business is watching the landscape change and noticing the next big windows of opportunity before everyone else does.

A freaky economy brings plenty of opportunity. So call me perverse, but I'm having fun ;-)

Read entire post at the Coaching Blog.


Thursday, February 07, 2008

International Coaching Week: World's First Coach-a-thon

2008 Coach-a-thon
FREE Professional Coaching

In Celebration of International Coaching Week Greystone Guides is sponsoring a 24 hour Coach-a-thon. 12 coaches from Houston and around the country will provide free coaching for 24 hours straight from February 15 at 9am-February 16 at 9am.
For more information and to register click here:
Greystone Guides Coach-a-thon

Please share this event as you see fit. We want to coach people from all over the world and need your help to get the word out.

Useful & Timely

Coaching to Clarity on
Great Day Houston

On January 11, 2008 Mattison and two of her clients appeared on the morning television show Great Day Houston. The topic was How to Have an Amazing Life. Whitney talks with Laurie and Tandy about their amazing businesses. Mattison does a live coaching demonstration with Jo Sue and shows you what creating clarity means.
Watch the Show Here

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Healing Rhythms


Can computer software give you a spiritual experience? Strangely, yes!

You probably know all the benefits. Research shows meditation promotes greater physical, mental and emotional health, as well as happiness, better concentration, less stress, etc. It even helps to eliminate disorders such as hypertension, asthma, insomnia and Alzheimer’s. In fact, some studies show it can help your mind evolve up to two levels, according to Integral Philosopher, Ken Wilber.

And I haven’t even mentioned the spiritual benefits!

All this in mind, I tend to regard meditation as just as vital to wellbeing as going to the gym, so when my lifestyle changed recently in a way that seems to have wiped out my meditation practice, I started hunting for new ways to bring it back into my life…

But it still wasn’t happening!

I finally settled on a choice that may seem a little ridiculous: I bought a computer program to help me meditate ~ and it works! Created by the Wild Divine Project in partnership with Sounds True, there actually are multiple products, but the one I bought and use daily is called Healing Rhythms. The program combines meditation exercises (and some intriguing games) led by several luminaries including Deepak Chopra, Andrew Weil and Dean Ornish; with a biofeedback connection to help you learn to relax, focus, energize, etc. You can use it in 5-minute chunks or sit for longer periods. For me, it means I can quickly shift into a more coherent state rapidly as needed. Very handy if I’ve just been though a stressful event and need to shift into greatness for a coaching session or teleclass.

Healing Rhythms also claims to heal various conditions. I’m using it to overcome my post-holiday sugar cravings and it has virtually eliminated them. Losing weight is suddenly easy for me.

I believe in this product enough to become an affiliate. If you want more meditation in your life and you need a tool to help you maintain your practice, this could be it! Find out more here:

Healing Rhythms: Biofeedback Training for a Happy Mind & Healthy Body )

Friday, December 28, 2007

Is the Window of Opportunity Closing on Your Dream of Coach Certification?

Today I got a call from a coach I knew years ago. He was trying to access the IAC website to finish their online certification test on the old Proficiencies before it’s taken down on January 1st and wondered if he still had time to get certified.

Yes, there’s still time – three days... Read entire post at the Coaching Blog.


Friday, October 12, 2007

Al Gore Wins Nobel Peace Prize



Just read a New York Times article that says Former Vice President Al Gore has won the Nobel Peace Prize along with a United Nations committee on climate change. (NYT pic above, Cornelius Poppe/European Pressphoto Agency)

Go Al!

This blog is mostly about coaching and coaches, so I shy away from my political opinions, but I revealed in my last post that Mr. Gore is still my first choice for President of the United States. No one who is officially running comes close to having his vision, experience, integrity and ability - and we know he can win!

I guess the real question is: Since, in the seven years since Al Gore won the popular vote for the American Presidency, he's made millions of dollars, won the Nobel Prize, as well as an Oscar and an Emmy; so does Mr. Gore even want the White House, anymore?

If he really wants it and has the courage to take it on, then he's the guy to lead us in the next eight years.

Mr. Gore is enjoying his Personal Greatness and perhaps the perfection in the 2000 campaign is that the intervening years of atrocious leadership have helped the world - and hopefully the US - to catch up with his vision. Maybe now's the time.

If you think so, go here http://www.draftgore.com/ and sign the petition.

Copyright, Julia Stewart, 2007
All rights reserved.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Have You Seen My Country?

You may be seeing flyers like this in your local coffee shop or grocery store. More and more of us are wondering what happened to that great country we grew up in and we're looking for it.

Today we have Republican leaders that are either complete idiots or the Devil incarnate ~ or both. And we have Democrats who wimp out on any issue, if they think it will compromise their approval ratings. Some choice!

Some days I wonder if democracy even works, anymore. And no, I don't have a better alternative. But I'm fed up with politicians who just don't get it.

A few folks got together and created http://unity08.com
for Americans who have had it with devisiveness and want solutions that work. I heard about in on the Stephen Colbert show. Much as a love Stephen, he's not my first choice for President. (Are you listening, Mr. Gore??)

Today, Unity '08 launches its "Have You Seen My Country?" campaign. http://unity08.com/takeaction/mycountry
Hence, the flyer. They want members to spread them around. I spend more time on my computer than I do at the coffee shop (I bet you do, too). So here you go.

Hmm, what if we find our country, notice she's changed and discover leaders who get it? That would be something we could unite over!

Copyright, Julia Stewart, 2007
All rights reserved.
www.yourlifepart2.com

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Coaching Groundwork


Where do you go if you're curious about coaching? If you want to find out what coaching skills are about? If you want to discover if coaching is the profession for you? I designed Coaching Groundwork for people like you... 

Read entire blog post at the Coaching Blog.


Thursday, June 14, 2007

Going Back in Time and Striking Gold








While researching "distinctions", an important coaching tool, for a recent class at the School of Coaching Mastery, I decided to go back in time and find the original Thomas Leonard Distinctionary. Most people don't know this version exists or think that it's gone, but there's a nifty little web archive known as... Read entire article at the Coaching Blog.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Thomas Leonard's Clarifiers


Great coaches know the value of a well-placed either/or question. I learned what a huge upgrade this type of question could be while studying with (the late) Thomas Leonard at his Graduate School of Coaching.

One evening, in a class called The Clarifiers, I volunteered to coach. (Always volunteer in class. You'll learn ten times more than everyone else.)

I was given five minutes to coach, using just five of the following list of 15 clarifying questions, nothing else. The "client" (another coaching student who had a genuine problem she wanted to solve) made a huge shift in her thinking and at the end of five minutes, her problem had been eliminated. Wow!

Masterful coaches have tools that eliminate the need to figure out, work hard, take responsibility for, or solve their clients problems. Their skills do the work for them. At the School of Coaching Mastery, coaches learn these tools and how to use them masterfully. We have our own list of either/or questions, but in case you're interested, here are Thomas':

1. Urgent or Important?

2. Addressed or Avoiding?

3. Accurate or Interpretation?

4. Open or Resistant?

5. Internal or External Reference Point?

6. Want or Could/Should/Need?

7. Opportunity or Possibility?

8. Source or Symptom?

9. Opening or Share?

10. Response or Reaction?

11. Create or Eliminate?

12. Problem or Concern?

13. Present or Past?

14. Acceptance or Resistance?

15. Toward or Away From?

Clarifiers Copyright, CoachVille, 2002 (Used with permission)

Another great source of enlightening either/or questions is Debbie Ford's book, The Right Questions.

Copyright, Julia Stewart, 2007

http://www.yourlifepart2.com

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Top Ten Worst Reasons to Become a Coach and Ten Clean* Reasons

People ask me every week to help them become coaches. I always want to know their real reasons for joining this fantastic profession, because over the years, I’ve seen a lot of coaches who had a miserable time building their businesses. Very often those coaches had fallen prey to one of the following misconceptions about coaching (which are frequently perpetrated by coaching schools – even the ones that are accredited.)  

Read entire blog post at the Coaching Blog.


Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Encyclopedia of Life


A tool for saving the planet by sharing the information we have about every species with everyone via the world wide web. Visit here and watch the movie: http://www.eol.org/home.html

What could be more inspring than life on Earth?

Thursday, May 03, 2007

School of Coaching Mastery


Okay, there it is. The new School of Coaching Mastery logo. Putting it out here on my blog is an announcement of sorts. SCM has been a kind of brain child for several months. Maybe longer. I think it was gestating for a couple of years, while I was saying, "I don't want to start another coaching school, there are too many out there, already."


I didn't choose SCM though, it chose me... Read entire blog post at the Coaching Blog.